Change the Response - Stop Stepping in the same puddle
Updated: Feb 5
The story of how to stop stepping in the same puddle is the same the world over, it took until the person in the story got tired of the wet feet. The inconvenience, the frustration, the disappointment and the seemingly never-ending appearance of the same puddle, they decided to do something different. They changed their response – they decided to go round the puddle instead. Life was better. They took a step in the right direction, by changing what was not working.
Change the Response - What is it?
Welcome to my blog and thank you for looking at my site. I aim to provide mental health support with love, compassion & clarity.
I’m a passionate believer in helping people make the small changes to make an immediate start to better Mental Health. These small changes can make a big difference. Getting better sleep, having better mornings;looking at what changes in your routine can make this happen! Kindness is my first response and this is the approach I encourage people to take. Be kind to yourself, create a routine because you want to be kinder to yourself.
I am a big advocate of kindness; it costs nothing. Although, I don’t believe in squandering kindness on unworthy causes or unworthy people. This is where our Personal Boundaries are invaluable. More on that will follow.
I’m a Psychotherapist, Counsellor & Coach, Anxiety, Stress and Trauma Specialist; grounded in reality, open to the endless possibilities that change can bring. I am the Therapist, Counsellor and Coach for people who for whatever reason are interested in making some changes because the place they are in is stressful, difficult or unhappy.
I can work with you to find the way forward with better strategies to navigate life and the world. Providing a Mental Health Toolkit to work with you to establish & sustain the practice of good mental health. Mental Health is a practice. I’m psycho-dynamically trained, so I can help you reflect on your life and your relationships to understand what patterns are being repeated that are causing unhappiness or difficulty. We have often learned ways of relating to people as young children and sometimes it is useful and necessary to look at early childhood experiences and memories. However I will not ask you to look back unless it is going to move you forward.
“I don’t want to change, why should I!?
Change the Response: Ultimately, you are the only one who can. The only person you can be sure of to change the response. That’s it.
Consider throwing the idea of perfection out of your mindset. The strive for Perfection will always end in disappointment, it’s the Mental Health equivalent of unicorns. I like the idea of unicorns but I’m not emotionally invested in them existing. Let’s strive for Progress instead – progress is a concept that exists. Progress can be measured – the point from where you are right now to where you can be in 10 minutes from now, next week or next month.
There will be good days and other days that are not so good. Remember your progress on the othe days!
This is what the Change the Response philosophy is about; if what you are doing is not working, it is time to Change the Response you are making. I can show you how.
That’s my goal for you and I can work with you to resolve and remove the obstacles that are in your way.
Some people only want to change their situation when the place they are in becomes intolerable. Why wait?
Book a 20 minute free chat to meet me. There is no obligation or charge. Decide from there what you would like to do.
Thanks for reading.